Military, narcissists, politics, Trump

Losers and suckers…

We know there’s a telephone… of course Trump said those things about wounded and killed veterans.

Phew… sorry about all of the reposts today. Bill and I were sitting outside on the patio last night. Somehow, we ended up talking about the incident that occurred in the “It’s graduation season” post I reposted today. Much to my surprise, as we were talking about that, I actually got a little emotional. I told Bill that I had felt betrayed when he was trying to “make nice” with my parents. It was yet another incidence of sweeping shit under the rug. Certain people have done this my whole life, leaving me to take the blame for almost every bad situation. I understood why Bill didn’t want to defend me more vigorously at the time, but it really did feel like I got dumped on yet again– even though I was doing my sister and my parents a favor. But then, as I have learned, sometimes sweeping stuff under the rug the best thing to do.

Like, for instance, when I got angry with another sister for sending me a picture of my dad on his death bed, I wanted to tell her off. But it wasn’t the right time to do that because it would have made a bad situation worse. The incident that prompted the “It’s graduation season” post involved several innocent people, and my telling off my dad or that rude woman who prompted my public humiliation would not have made a positive difference. It was my sister’s graduation day and we couldn’t easily leave, so it was more effective to just be a little passive aggressive and run up a big restaurant bill instead. Maybe no one “learned anything” (not that I expected them to), but I felt better– even if talking about that situation still riles me up a bit. I also learned that it pays to always have your own transportation so you can escape if things get bad.

So now, it’s time to move on to another topic. Thanks to Donald Trump’s daily circus, there’s no shortage of things to write about. And today, I’m going to address the article in The Atlantic (of which I am a paid subscriber) that made huge waves yesterday. The article to which I am referring is entitled, “Trump: Americans Who Died in War Are ‘Losers’ and ‘Suckers’”.

Lots of people who were sharing this piece yesterday seemed surprised by it. I, for one, am not at all surprised. I completely believe the claims that Trump called American war casualties “losers” and “suckers”. I’m surprised that this is being called “fake news” by anyone, including Trump himself. Donald Trump has never made a secret of his disdain for people he deems deficient in some way. And someone who dies in war– something that he probably sees as nothing but a game– is, in his view, a “loser”. He doesn’t have any empathy, and probably doesn’t see the servicemembers who die as anything more than toy soldiers– as meaningless as an Asteroid in a video game.

I have yet to see Donald Trump express any real empathy for anyone. Instead, he wishes people like Ghislaine Maxwell well, as he shits on people who tried to be loyal to him and believed in him. I’m sure there is a long list of people who made the mistake of falling for Trump’s bullshit and lived to regret it. He is a narcissist, and as such, he lives in his own little fucked up fantasy world where he can’t be held accountable for anything. People who have never had a close encounter with a narcissist don’t understand that these folks are emotionally stunted as if they were still toddlers. You can throw the proof of their bullshit in their faces, but they will still stubbornly deny it.

Think about this, though. Donald Trump was recorded speaking “in private” about his approach to women. He uses the most vulgar terms to describe his relentless pursuit of a woman he knew full well was married and likely uninterested in him. This recording was made public in October 2016. In my opinion, it should have knocked him out of contention for office. He basically admits that he sexually assaults women.

Here he is, “privately” admitting what a creep he is.

But when this was made public, Trump downplayed its significance. He dismissed it as “locker room” talk, even though he plainly and proudly said it. If he can speak about women in this way, why wouldn’t we believe that he can talk about veterans dying in war zones in that way? Of course he can, and of course he did! Hell, he openly mocked John McCain, who was shot down while serving in the Navy during the Vietnam War and subsequently incarcerated for seven years.

“He’s not a war hero,” Trump said [of McCain] in 2015 while running for the Republican nomination for president. “I like people who weren’t captured.”

Even if Trump’s comments about John McCain were the only thing he ever said about veterans who were captured or killed, this quote alone would qualify as proof of his disdain toward people in the military. And we all know this is NOT the only thing. Trump tweets daily, and his tweets are often derisive, insulting, and full of lies and distortions. So I am not at all surprised that there are claims that Trump called military servicemembers as “suckers” and “losers”. Duh!

But lots of people haven’t gotten the message and refuse to believe what’s right in front of them. For example, a friend of mine shared this post yesterday. She is not a Trump fan, but wanted to share it with people who can commiserate with her…

I don’t know who Jessica Clark is, but I did visit the original post. I see that she’s very proud that this nonsense went viral. Also… Trump was a frequent guest at Epstein’s island and, as I posted above, actually BRAGS about molesting women!

For the life of me, I do not see how Donald Trump does anything to protect her right to praise God. Trump is not exactly a decent Christian. The American Dream is a fallacy that only works out for a few… it is, indeed, just a dream. So many people are barely making it, especially in the wake of the pandemic. And the Republican Party doesn’t want to help people who have been knocked down by sudden poverty. Maybe they are against abortion, but they sure the hell aren’t for helping those babies once they’re born. Instead, they’re all about slut shaming and judging people who legitimately need help when they encounter financial hardships.

In the past few weeks, we’ve heard about how Louis DeJoy, the Postmaster General and a Trump supporter, has done his best to help Trump cheat in the upcoming elections by taking mail sorting machines out of commission and not allowing mail carriers overtime, which causes mail to be delayed. I have heard about the Stars and Stripes, a renowned independent military newspaper, getting less funding by the Pentagon, a move that could have shut it down after 159 years in operation. Trump has since stated that the paper will get funded, probably because there was a huge uproar. But it’s no secret that Trump only likes the press when they have good things to report about him. Anything less than a glowing report is “fake news”. He fails to see how freedom of expression and the press is an important part of democracy that all Americans are entitled to have. Yet people like Jessica Clark, pictured above, still think Trump champions their causes. The mind boggles.

In any case, Fox News, of all outlets, has confirmed the reports that were in The Atlantic.

And yet many military folks LOVE Trump and will vote for him again.

But Trump would love to have those same veterans marching in a grand parade celebrating him, a la North Korea or Soviet Russia. What an ASSHOLE.

Donald Trump isn’t special, either. This world is full of creeps like him. And this could be Trump’s theme song.

Don’t we deserve better for our nation? Doesn’t the WORLD deserve better than this narcissistic toddler in the White House? I just want to shake people like the Trumper above, who keep cheering on Trump’s disrespect and disdain for people who can’t do anything for him.

It must be nice not to have had any direct contact with a narcissist like Donald Trump. It must be awesome not to worry about the damage he has already done and will continue to do if he’s allowed to stay in office. But if you’ve had any exposure to this type of person and been stung by them, you develop a keen ability to pick them out at twenty paces. Trump is a narcissist. He is not capable of caring about anyone but himself. He has NO empathy whatsoever. Don’t you understand that even if you’re a booster, he doesn’t give two shits about you? Don’t you think we should have someone in charge who does? Isn’t that what would be best for EVERYONE?

Ah well… I’m tired of writing about Trump. I think I’ll practice my guitar. Hope everyone has a good Saturday.

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Entertaining exchanges…

While we were in Italy, a funny exchange took place on my Facebook page. I probably shouldn’t write about this, but it’s just too funny not to share. Besides, I kind of think the lady who has inspired this post asked for it.

A few days ago, I shared an article about Donald Trump’s reaction to Joe Biden’s decision to ask Kamala Harris to be his running mate in his 2020 run for POTUS. I commented that Trump “can’t deal with women who aren’t intimidated or impressed by him. Too bad there is so little impressive about him…”

A former Facebook friend commented that she had been researching Kamala Harris and everything she’d found out about Ms. Harris was “negative”. And I wrote that I would vote for a kumquat over Trump and Pence. Seriously, this should not have been a surprise for her. She met me in person back in 2015 and was a Facebook friend for most of that time. She should have known that I can’t stand Trump and am not afraid to say so… But– evidently, she chose that day to basically call me a hater. When I added that “those fuckers need to go”, she wrote this:

 interesting. Wow. 
I don’t ever understand all the hate. Where does that come from? And why? I do a lot of research and his administration is even if not better compared to others. 
Is it his personality?

So I wrote this…

I despise Donald Trump. He’s a malignant narcissist, and once you have had exposure to that type of person, you know they are beyond redemption. As far as I am concerned, he never should have been allowed to run for his “grab ‘em by the pussy” comment alone. But there’s a long list of shit he’s done from as far back as when I was in high school. People were talking about what a sleazy dirtbag he is even back then.  

But even if he hadn’t done bad things, he’s completely incompetent and only cares about himself. As for Pence, I simply despise religious whack a loon politics.

I got eight likes and loves on that comment. I have many intelligent friends who agree with me that Trump’s presidency has been a non-stop disaster. But even if it hadn’t been a disaster, he’s just a flaming asshole who promotes hatred and polarizes people. Even if it was just his personality, I stand by my right not to like him or vote for him. That’s the American way. But ex friend didn’t see it. She wrote this:

I see. Got it. It’s his personality. I understand.

Nope. Clearly you don’t understand, weird ex Facebook friend. But that’s alright. I can’t change what you think or how you feel, and I have better things to do than try. Another friend tried to explain her thoughts and ex friend said the same to her:

got it. It’s his personality.

So I tried again with this. It was my last comment to her on this post:

It’s not just his personality. I could sit here all day and write about why he’s a terrible leader. The fact that he’s a malignant narcissist, though, ought to give you a clue. Malignant narcissists are basically criminals. And Trump has done many criminal things, to include raping his first wife. She now denies it, but it was part of their divorce proceedings. He forced himself on her over painful hair plugs.  

And then there’s his close friendship with Jeffrey Epstein and the very credible stories of him raping teenagers. But aside from that, he clearly wants to be a dictator and that is not what America is about. So, as far as I am concerned, he needs to go.

But if you want to believe it’s just because I think he has a shitty personality (and he does), that’s fine with me, too.

She came back with this comment for my friend, who had responded with respect and intelligence.

I’ve been doing the research. I’m not a sheep. I get where you’re coming from. Thank you.
I’m doing tons of research.  
I like doing my own research. I’m not easily influenced by others or organizations. But, thank you.

At that point, I had pretty much bowed out of the conversation because, well, I was on vacation. But ex friend continued with a bunch of my friends, all of whom are way smarter and more articulate than she is. One friend left this very reasonable and well-researched comment for ex friend.

In November 2016, less than two weeks after he was elected, Trump settled three different fraud lawsuits related to his Trump University for $25 million.

In December 2019, New York Attorney General Letitia James formally announced, the president was “forced to pay $2 million for misusing charitable funds for his own political gain,” and his Trump Foundation was “shut down for its misconduct.”

In October 2018, it came to public attention that the General Services Administration, which manages real estate for the federal government, had planned to turn the FBI’s headquarters in Washington, D.C. “over to a commercial developer” — until, that is, the president intervened to veto the sale. As a group of Democratic lawmakers pointed out, Trump was “‘dead opposed’ to the government selling the property, which would have allowed commercial developers to compete directly with the Trump Hotel” only a block away. 

Trump’s former lawyer and fixer Michael Cohen, who is serving a three-year prison sentence for campaign finance violations, tax fraud, and bank fraud, made illegal hush money payments to two women — Stormy Daniels and Karen McDougal — who claimed to have had affairs with Trump. We also know, thanks to federal prosecutors, that Cohen “acted in coordination and at the direction of” the president himself. 

On several occasions, he has encouraged his supporters — including members of the armed forces — to attack his political opponents. He’s offered to pay legal fees for people who commit violence against protestors to his cause. 

When it comes to violence, he’s used it against peaceful protestors in Lafayette Park – an area that has a long tradition of protests. Half an hour before the curfew during the initial BLM protests, he had protestors cleared using tear gas to allow for a photo op. 

As of the end of 2019, Trump had lied a documented 15,000 times since assuming office. And it continues. The first article of impeachment against Nixon accused him of “making or causing to be made false or misleading public statements for the purpose of deceiving the people of the United States.” Trump outstrips Nixon on the lying front by a magnitude. 

Trump, as even Fox News host Chris Wallace observed , “is engaged in the most direct, sustained assault on freedom of the press in our history.” The president has asked the FBI to jail reporters who publish leaks, threatened to revoke the broadcast licenses of media organizations that criticize him, and relentlessly attacked and demonized journalists as “scum,” “slime,” “sick people,” “fake news,” and “the enemy of the people.” He has revoked press passes, ended the practice of daily press briefings by his press secretaries opting instead to tweet which allies no follow up questions. He has now made it a habit to walk out of briefings if he doesn’t like the questions. 

In the midst of the COVID crisis, he chooses to speak over the best regarded experts in the field of infectious diseases. He has told hospitals to stop sending information to the CDC which has the ability to collect sort and make public information in a number of meaningful way. 

Local officials in Puerto Rico blame presidential negligence and incompetence for the deaths of nearly 3,000 people in Puerto Rico, in the wake of Hurricane Maria in 2017. Trump’s response? He claimed that 3,000 Americans didn’t die. He also tried to “illegally withhold” much-needed, congressionally appropriated disaster relief funds. Trump told White House officials “he did not want a single dollar going to Puerto Rico. … Instead, he wanted more of the money to go to Texas and Florida.”

I could go on. These are not personality issue. To a large extent, this is not about his politics with which I have issues. This is about a level of amorality that makes him ineffective and undesirable as a leader and representative of the citizens of the USA. 

I will admit to finding his personality an issue. He’s anti-intellectual, racist, misogynistic, dishonest, self-absorbed, and lacking in basic consideration or empathy for others.

Ex Facebook friend seemed a bit agitated by that comment. She wrote this:

oh!
And the plot thickens.

And so my reasonable friend who wrote the above post responded again:

I would be interested with all your self-proclaimed research, what have you found to support your comment that “his administration is even better” than that of others? As to “the plot thickens,” not sure what that is supposed to mean or add to the discussion.

Again, a cryptic response from ex Facebook friend:

wow. The judgement. Have an awesome day. 
And the plot thickens……even more. Oooooh.

Reasonable friend presses on with this:

As with anyone with whom I gave a discussion, I like for facts and sources. So far, you’re just saying your research points you to a different conclusion than mine. I am looking for any facts you have. I am looking to learn from someone who expressed a different view from my own.

Ex Facebook friend, apparently feeling the heat and getting irritated, writes this:

do your own research. Don’t be a sheep. I’m all about facts and numbers……they so rock! 
I can’t school you. Be accountable and responsible for yourself. 
I never said anything about different conclusion. 
Never stop learning. The Universe conspires and collides. 
Different people, different life experiences, different paths.
Diversity.

Too funny. She had no idea who she was fooling with. Reasonable friend wrote:

I did my research and provided facts in response to your question. You have provided no facts and pointed me to no sources. 

I do my research. I seriously doubt you do. I have tried to offer an opportunity to engage meaningfully, but you’re just a troll and not worth engagement.

Apparently, she got a bit pissed off or something, because some time later, ex Facebook friend blocked me– even though I had bowed out of the argument hours earlier. But she didn’t block me until she left this beaut of a comment that made me laugh for days.

Look here’s the thing. I have an incredible gift…..I’m clairvoyant, medium, empath, healing witch.
I go on energy and unfortunately……I see your energy. Let’s leave it at that.
People cross paths for a reason…..I see your energy. 
That’s it. Baiting me, or trying  
I’m connected to mother earth.
Troll. Far from it. 
Guard your self. Items are coming your way.
I am only bright light. 

See…..I told you …. the plot thickens.
Ooooohhhhh.

What in the hell? Actually, I knew she was a bit weird. A few years ago, a friend of mine did a huge favor for ex Facebook friend. When I say “huge favor”, I mean HUGE FAVOR. She let ex Facebook friend’s kid live with her for awhile because the youngster had gotten in serious trouble and was kicked out of military housing. While he was a guest in my friend’s house, he caused all kinds of trouble and harassed my friend’s teenaged daughter. Ex Facebook friend didn’t hold her kid responsible. Instead, she was really shitty to my friend. I mean, unbelievably shitty… the road to hell is paved with good intentions, I guess.

I had unfriended her at that point. She added me back some time later. I went along with it because I wasn’t involved in the drama involving her son. But I must say that I wasn’t surprised by her fuckery the other day. It’s not like we hadn’t seen it before… but I was not expecting her to claim she’s a clairvoyant. That shit is out in left field. It’s too funny, and needs to be recorded for posterity. So here I am, recording it for posterity… and still laughing several days later.

My good friend who had been so kind to ex Facebook friend had a good laugh at this exchange too. Now two people have seen ex Facebook friend’s wackorama on social media.

I kind of love it when troublemakers block me on Facebook. It’s like the trash took itself out. Anyway… thanks to ex Facebook friend for the funny tag line about being a clairvoyant sharing the light. I love a good laugh!

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What the Trumps and the Duggars seem to have in common…

I’ve been reading Mary Trump’s new tell all book, Too Much and Never Enough: How My Family Created the World’s Most Dangerous Man, all about growing up Donald Trump’s niece. I’m probably about halfway through it at this point. I also fell down a couple of YouTube rabbit holes yesterday. I found this lady’s Duggar centered channel…

Okay… it’s not actually Duggar centered. But she does have a lot of Duggar content.

Without a Crystal Ball is run by a dark-eyed, light-haired woman named Katie Joy. She has videos about a lot of shows, but I found her because she does a lot of Duggar videos. Somehow, YouTube knows I’m a sucker for Duggar videos.

As I was reading more of Mary Trump’s book this morning, it dawned on me. JimBob Duggar is probably a narcissist. So was Fred Trump, Donald Trump’s father. So is Donald Trump. You can see by the way these men handle(d) their business that they are extraordinarily controlling, and they think they know more than they actually do. They don’t take counsel from other people, and those who are in their sphere know better than to cross them.

About an hour ago, over breakfast, I read a passage in Mary Trump’s book about how she had wanted to go to boarding school. Mary’s parents, Linda and Freddy Trump, had divorced, but even before their divorce, they were pretty much governed by Fred Trump, right down to Freddy’s being pretty much ostracized and disowned for deciding to be an airline pilot instead of going into the family’s real estate business.

The decision to allow Mary Trump to go to boarding school was to be decided by Fred Trump Sr., not Freddy Trump and his ex wife, who were Mary’s parents. Freddy served as a living warning to Fred and Mary Trump’s other children, not to cross Daddy. Freddy managed to get his father to consent to allowing Mary to go to boarding school (which was paid for with Freddy’s trust fund). The day before she was to go off to school, Mary went to her grandparents’ house to say goodbye to her dad. He was staying with his parents because, since the failure of his career as a pilot and disastrous stint in the real estate biz, Freddy had become an alcoholic. The alcoholism was so bad that it had destroyed his health. He got very sick and, with nowhere else to go, was forced to live in his old childhood bedroom.

When Mary reached the familiar back door to her grandparents’ house, she was greeted by her grandmother, who said her father wasn’t there. She was acting awkward and weird. Mary noticed, but didn’t press. Grandma Trump said she’d have him call her. Freddy never did call. Two weeks later, Mary was told she needed to call home. Her grandfather basically told her nothing was wrong and that she should call in the morning. Not believing her grandfather, Mary called her mom, who told her the sad news that Freddy had died of a heart attack at age 42.

When it came time to bury Freddy, Mary tried to let her elders know of her father’s final wishes. He had not wanted to be buried, and was very adamant about that. She had also wanted to see her dad before he was cremated. Not only was Mary denied the right to see her dad one last time, but after he was cremated, Fred Trump buried the ashes, despite Freddy’s wishes not to be buried. And when it came time to distribute his personal effects, Mary got nothing. Her brother, Fritz, got Freddy’s Timex watch.

So what does this story by Mary Trump have to do with the Duggars? Well… I have heard and read from many sources that Duggar kids go against their father’s wishes at great risk. Derick Dillard has gone against JimBob quite publicly and he and Jill quit Counting On, and Jeremy Vuolo has whisked Jinger away to Los Angeles. Sources reveal that both couples are a bit on the outs with Boob. Jill and Derick, for instance, are not allowed to go to the Tinker Toy Mansion without JimBob’s permission or presence. Jill had once been Daddy’s “favorite”. Now, she’s an outcast, but it looks like she’s embracing a more mainstream lifestyle. Same thing with Jinger. However, it appears that freedom comes with great cost.

I think Derick Dillard may contribute to Boob’s inevitable downfall.

If you’ve been reading my blogs over the years, you know that my husband was kept from seeing his daughters for many years, due to their narcissistic mother’s insistence that they disown him. In March of this year, Bill finally saw his younger daughter. It had been fifteen years, and younger daughter, now 26 years old, is finally able to make her own decisions. She seems to have come to terms with the idea that if she wants to live her own life, she may have to do so without contact with her siblings who are still on their mother’s side.

This is a common tactic narcissists use to stay in control of their relatives and others who are close to them. They handle the money, the major decisions, and set things up so that if you go against their wishes, disaster will strike. Or, even if disaster doesn’t have to strike, they train their relatives so that it seems like there will be a disaster that will befall anyone who leaves the fold. It’s not unlike being in a cult. That perception of impending doom can be very powerful. It takes a lot of courage and will to leave a narcissistic family system. It basically means you have to strike out on your own. And if you come from a really powerful family and have limited access to money or transportation, that can be an extremely daunting task.

In Freddy Trump’s case, being Fred Trump’s son meant that he couldn’t get loans, because his father was buddies with all of the powers that be at the local banks. That meant that instead of buying himself a nice house in Long Island, he was forced to live in a shitty, slummy apartment building owned by his father, that his father refused to fix. It meant that instead of doing the work he wanted to do, Freddy Trump was forced to work for his father, doing work that didn’t interest him. The hopelessness of it, along with those Scottish genetics from his mother, probably contributed to his severe alcoholism and eventual early death.

Jim Bob Duggar is probably not as powerful as Fred or Donald Trump, but he does have a lot of power. He owns many properties in Arkansas, has plenty of lawyers and money to pay them, and has trained an army of children, over half of whom are now young, healthy, strong adults. He also has their spouses, many of whom were kind of brokered into the Duggar family by their parents. It takes a certain type of person to marry a Duggar child… someone who will toe the line.

However, it’s plain that Boob failed to notice that Derick and Jeremy, and probably Austin Forsyth (Joy Anna’s husband), aren’t going to take his shit forever. But JimBob clearly sees as people in his family as slaves. He tries to “own” them. I can see that getting out of his clutches isn’t an easy endeavor, especially as the adult children have children of their own. Those children and their total dependence on their parents make it much harder for the Duggar adults to escape Boob’s narcissistic clutches and strike out on their own. There are a few exceptions, though. I think John David pretty much tells his dad to buzz off when he feels like it.

I’m mostly enjoying Mary Trump’s book… some of it is very sad, though. I get the sense that the malevolent streak in the Trump family doesn’t even so much come from Friedrich Trump, who ironically died in the last major world pandemic, back in 1918. He got Spanish Flu. It seems to me that the real culprit of the Trump nastiness came from Fred Trump’s mother, Elizabeth Christ Trump. She was the one who really got the business going, and, according to Mary Trump, she treated Fred’s Scottish wife, Mary, like dirt.

I’m sure it was tough for Mary Trump to decide to write this book. She basically reveals her family’s dysfunction for all that it is. Her Uncle Donald is, for now, one of the most powerful men on the planet, and he is royally fucking things up. It’s probably very embarrassing for her. She seems like a good and decent person with empathy and, in fact, it appears that most of the Trumps aren’t terrible people… just a few of them who have that malevolent, narcissistic streak that compels them to enslave and exploit people. I’m sure that Mary Trump might even fear for her safety after having written her book. I think she was brave to do it.

Likewise, I hope Derick Dillard or Jill, or someone else in the Duggar family spills the tea about JimBob. But then, I have seen his type enough times to recognize the behavior. I know he’s a narcissist and that his family members are mostly neatly under his thumb. I even remember someone on their reality show– can’t remember which one– saying that you don’t say no to JimBob. If you do, you might live to regret it. He’s a bully.

As for Without A Crystal Ball… I don’t know if I’ll keep watching her videos. I just happened to stumble across them a couple of days ago and they fit with today’s post. Hopefully, I’ll be able to review Mary Trump’s book soon.

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Michelle Duggar isn’t “ladylike” when she whistles…

I could easily post about Trump’s tweet yesterday… the tweet we were all expecting to read and dreading… But I’m not going to do that, because I think that Trump suggested delaying the election so that we’d all be talking and writing about that instead of the dismal condition of the U.S. economy.

Lemme get this straight… Trump wants businesses, schools, and churches to open right now, despite the extremely high coronavirus infection rates in parts of the United States, but it’s not “safe” enough to have an election in November? Bullshit. It’s time to vote out this orange dictator wannabe NOW. And that’s all I gots to say about that.

Moving on…

Nope… not gonna write any more about Trump. Instead, I’m going to write about my dumps, which is a more pleasant subject. Actually, I’m kind of kidding. I’m not going to write about my dumps. I’m going to write about what constitutes a “lady”.

Every once in awhile, someone posts something on social media that many people find profoundly stupid and laughable. Like, for instance, a few years ago, when I lived near Stuttgart, someone in one of the local Facebook groups posted about the Black Forest and a person responded enthusiastically, asking “So what time does the Black Forest close?”

The Black Forest doesn’t close…

Lemme tell ya, a WHOLE lot of people laughed their asses off about that question, which many people thought was “stupid”. However, I could see why she asked. In the United States, a lot of forests are part of national parks, which do have opening and closing times. Being new to Germany, this lady didn’t realize that the Black Forest is a vast region that includes many towns and municipalities. It doesn’t ever close. She caught hell for innocently asking that question, though, and it was a running joke for years. I’m sure there are still some people in Stuttgart who remember that question even years later– probably due to long term residents like Bill and me.

Well… today, I was checking out the latest posts in the Duggar Family News Group, and some lady posted this…

It’s been awhile since I last watched the Duggars on TV, but I seem to remember that Michelle Duggar is able to whistle like a horny bastard at a peep show…
Hmmm… does Michelle whistle like the wolf in this cartoon? By the way, this cartoon was definitely not intended for kids.
Michelle used to be “feisty”…. I think I’d rather listen to her whistle than speak.

Anyway… lots of people took the poster to task for asking that question. They wanted to know what possessed her to comment in such a way. A few posted that they aren’t ladylike, either. One lady wrote about how she saves up her farts so she can share them with her husband. And that made me think of Bill, who stays married to me, even though the honeymoon is long over. 😉

Actually, I think given how repressive it must be, being married to to “God Bobber”, the fact that Michelle Duggar whistles like a truck driver is kind of cool. She used to be a cheerleader, you know… and someone even found a picture of her online from when she was a gymnast. There she is in her leotard and, by God, her knees are actually visible! I remember one time, before the big Josh Duggar sex pest scandal of 2015, Michelle Duggar was shown waterskiing on TV while wearing a skirt. And the Duggars insisted that the cameramen black out her knees! Michelle used to mow the lawn in her bikini and she had an actual job working in a yogurt shop. Now, her claim to fame is birthing nineteen children, including one who is best known for molesting four of his sisters and another girl and cheating on his wife with a stripper.

A screenshot of a photo that was posted in the group. She reminds me of Dana Plato.

I had a pretty good laugh looking at the responses to the observation that being able to whistle like a man doesn’t necessarily mean someone isn’t “ladylike”. What does that even mean, anyway? I love a good off color joke and some would claim that I’m not very “ladylike”. But those who know me well would say that there is a side to me that is much more refined than people realize. Besides, what’s so great about being a lady? You aren’t supposed to have body functions; you have to sit with your legs crossed or knees together; God help you if you have natural scents; and you’re never supposed to say or do anything “vulgar”. Well, I don’t think that’s fun or healthy.

However, I don’t like it when people are super confrontational toward others, especially over something like this. Maybe it was a “dumb” question or statement, but at least she posted something for people to discuss, right? She probably didn’t think about the bigger implications of what she wrote. I know that being super confrontational is kind of in style right now, but too much of it can have a chilling effect on open communication. What’s more, shaming someone for a “dumb comment” or “stupid question” isn’t helpful. It just squelches communication. It’s not like the poster said anything that was that offensive. Maybe Michelle’s whistling makes her hair stand on end. That’s fair enough, right?

Lots of people in that group were berating the poster for being so “petty”. And yet, there they were posting responses, which is the whole purpose for having such a group in the first place. I don’t really care about Michelle Duggar’s whistle habit, but I can understand why it would annoy some people. Some people hate it when I laugh. But I bet they’d rather I laugh than do something even less “ladylike”. 😉 Because I’m a lady, I’ll leave the possibilities up to your imagination.

I’m no lady, I’m Bill’s wife…

I don’t think Michelle Duggar is particularly ladylike, anyway. Much of what she says and does seem to be fake to me. I think that underneath the squeaky baby voice, blacked out knees, and meek things she says and does, she’s a tough, athletic, fun loving woman who has been violently repressed by Boob and his chronic halitosis, which probably subdues her into submission when he needs her to be “joyfully available” to him. Man… I’m glad I’m no lady. I’m just Bill’s vulgar wife. And no, I don’t do a lot of whistling, but in the morning, I can blow taps from my asshole with the best of them. Fortunately, Bill loves me anyway.

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Trump’s decision to move troops out of Germany…

Have you ever heard the expression “Even a broken clock is correct at least twice a day?” Well… that’s kind of how I was feeling yesterday when I heard the news that Donald Trump plans to move about 12,000 troops out of Germany.

Oh, don’t get me wrong. I don’t like the idea of him reducing the number of troops here in Deutschland. I think it’s a petty and short-sighted plan, and I kind of hope it goes down in flames, along with his bid for re-election. But I must admit I was a little bit tickled to hear the news yesterday. As I read about the people who would most be affected by this plan, I realized that Stuttgart is going to be the most affected of all of the areas in Germany.

European Command (EUCOM) and Africa Command (AFRICOM) are both outfits that Bill has worked for in the past. They are both located in Stuttgart, and they employ thousands of American people. If those two commands are moved out of Stuttgart, that will mean that there will be significantly fewer American military folks and civilians in Stuttgart. The military folks who are based there with the remaining tenants will probably almost all end up living on the installations, and the number of civilians who are ineligible to live on the installations, but need a place to live, will be in shorter supply.

Stuttgart has four local installations, one of which is entirely used for housing. So moving EUCOM and AFRICOM would mean that most people who are in the military, working in Stuttgart, will not need to rent accommodations on the economy. What few American civilians remain will be in far shorter supply than usual, and that will mean they’ll probably rent places closer to their workplaces, and more will be available to them, because of the decreased demand. It could mean rental prices will be forced down, and many fewer landlords will have the opportunity to blatantly rip off “ignorant Americans” of their deposits when they move out of their rental properties. I understand that practice among some landlords is at an epidemic level down there.

Now… this plan of Trump’s is hardly engraved in stone. Whether or not it happens as he envisions it will depend on if he’s re-elected and if he literally survives after he’s re-elected, as more and more government representatives are testing positive for COVID-19 and telling their staffers about it in person. It’s also going to be very expensive, time consuming, and cumbersome undertaking to initiate this plan. Housing and other infrastructure will have to be constructed in the areas in which he wants to move troops. Italy and Belgium, by the way, pay even less toward their own defense than Germany does, so his complaints about Germany not paying its share of defense expenses, while basically true, are kind of based in bullshit. Is he going to demand that Italy and Belgium pay up, too? I doubt it. I think Trump is simply holding a grudge, and/or doing Putin’s bidding. I also doubt either Italy or Belgium is especially interested in having more Americans living there.

Germans seem less interested in seeing Americans leave. It’s true… we’ve been here a long time and we pump money into the economy and add security against Russia (although Trump is awfully cozy with Putin). The infrastructure is already here and we already have a longstanding relationship with Germans.

Our landlord has approached Bill on multiple occasions, wanting to know what our plans are. In fact, when we went to Poland a few months ago, he thought we were going there to house hunt. Nope… it was just for a conference and I tagged along because it was our wedding anniversary. I wouldn’t be averse to living in Poland, Italy, Belgium, or Spain, but I like Germany very much, and I’m not particularly hoping for a move anytime soon. At the very least, I’d like to stay out of the United States because I don’t wish to catch the coronavirus.

Besides… these things take time, especially when the world is ever changing. I know that RAF Mildenhall in England, which is where my father did his last assignment in the 1970s, has been slated for closure since 2015. It was supposed to shut down in 2020. Then they pushed it to 2023. Guess what. It’s still up and running. At this point, they’re predicting it will close in 2027. I won’t hold my breath.

Fortunately, it appears that not only is Bill doing good work in Wiesbaden, but none of the groups based in Wiesbaden were mentioned as areas where troops would be cut. So our current landlord, at least for now, can rest easy. Stuttgart area landlords who especially prefer renting to Americans, however, might soon have some cause for concern, especially since some of the moves may be happening within the coming weeks. Some of them might want to re-evaluate the way they do business or, perhaps, get out of the business of renting to “cash cow” Americans affiliated with the military for good. I know of at least one person who should really consider that option.

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