Here’s a repost from my original blog. I wrote this on September 23, 2018. As Christmas approaches, I think it’s relevant… and I’m still deciding on today’s topic. My mom made the socks on my feet in the featured photo, too.
A friend shared this post from Scary Mommy yesterday. It was originally written in March 2018, but somehow I missed the viral round. I entertained myself by reading it as Bill and I came home from our excursion. The Scary Mommy story was gleaned from a Reddit post that shows just how completely rude and entitled people can be sometimes, especially toward creative people.
A guy on Instagram asked a crocheter named Krafty Katt if she takes commissions. He wanted her to make him a queen sized blanket using expensive wool yarn and employing a complicated stitch. She told him she’d do it for $400, with $200 paid upfront. The guy’s response was very profane and he basically told her she was ripping him off because he could go to Walmart and buy a blanket for $15. He used every trick in the book to get her to lower her price for creating something stunning by hand. She wouldn’t budge and eventually doubled her price. I offer mad props to her for being so calm and handling that jerk the way she did.
I must admit, she was a whole lot nicer than I would have been. I probably would have told the guy to go eat a bag of dicks the first time he started using foul language toward me. Some people don’t seem to understand that handmade goods don’t just cost the price of the supplies. They also require time and effort. The guy’s insistence that the crocheter could buy yarn on sale and basically work for free was extremely insulting, especially considering how rude he was being to her.
My mom was making this the last time I visited her.
She also made this. I did not inherit any of my mom’s talent for needle creations. My sister got that gift.
I probably have even more insight into this phenomenon than other people do. I grew up watching my parents making money from their creativity. My mom ran her own knitting and needlework shop for over 25 years. She ran her shop out of our home and taught countless people, mostly women, how to knit, needlepoint, cross stitch, and candle wick. When I was really young, she even used to make clothes for me. My mom has a gift for making beautiful things and she sold high quality supplies to like minded people who wanted to create beautiful things. She probably knows all about the yarn Krafty Katt wrote of on her Reddit thread.
My dad had a complementary business doing custom picture framing and selling art by local artists. Both of my parents made their livings laboring over beautiful things. People would bring their creations to my mom when they needed help. I remember her “blocking” needlepoint done by other women or finishing up projects for people. I remember my dad and his assistant, Deborah (who took over his business), creatively framing pictures and making shadow boxes for patrons. It all took a lot time, effort, skill, and most of all, vision. Most people were very pleased with the end results, although some bristled at the cost.
Besides running her own knitting and needlepoint business, my mom was also a church organist for over 50 years. People were eager to hire her to play for weddings and funerals because she is extremely talented. I don’t remember her charging a lot of money to play the organ, but I do remember that each event required her to practice. She had to practice for each Sunday service, every wedding, and all funerals. That took time, energy, and effort, and she was entitled to be paid for it.
I have run into this issue myself. I am a writer and a singer. Writing and singing are two of my innate talents, so they come fairly easily to me, but I still have to develop them. I studied voice for several years and put in a lot of time practicing and learning how to breathe. I paid for music and an accompanist, as well as instruction from a teacher. Now I can sing pretty well, but that skill didn’t come without cost, commitment, and a lot of effort.
It takes time and effort to make music or write a piece for someone else. A lot of the pieces I’ve written for money have required extensive research, fact checking, and equipment. Computers cost money. Software costs money. So do subscriptions to publications that provide the information I need to write something factual and credible. I went to school for seven years past high school to develop the knowledge and skills to be able to write professionally. God knows that took money! Some people might argue that one can learn how to write well without a college degree. I might agree with that. However, I went to graduate school and studied specific areas that give me expertise that I wouldn’t have had otherwise. It’s been awhile since my last freelance assignment, but back when I was writing for money, I was earning anywhere from $40 to $80 an hour in the Washington, D.C. area.
I even had a social work professor who told his students that we should never give away our work for free, even if we only charge a dollar. When someone pays for something, they value it more. Although I don’t always think monetary compensation is required for one person to value another person’s contribution, I do agree with the idea that nothing is really free.
A person is more likely to take another person’s work seriously if payment is required. The payment doesn’t always have to be monetary. It can also be given in the form of gratitude. For instance, I would never expect someone to give me money for a gift I present to them. A gift is, by definition, given without the expectation of money. I would hope that the recipient would “pay” me by saying thank you, although that doesn’t always happen, either. Sometimes people are clods… myself included.
Bill had this kilt made when we went to Scotland in 2017. The kiltmaker measured him and created that kilt by hand. It’s absolutely beautiful, but it cost plenty and took about three months to create. Ultimately, it was worth it. I’m glad we went to the kiltmaker instead of a big company that makes kilts in bulk.
Aside from the hard costs of producing something beautiful, there’s also the issue of time and labor. No one wants to be a slave. There has to be a pay off for being productive, and the more productive a person is, the bigger the pay off should be. Krafty Katt is obviously very good at what she does– good enough that the guy who proposed that she make his blanket asked if she does commissions. But then he insulted her by accusing her of ripping him off by demanding to be paid for her work.
I would not have made a blanket for the guy on Instagram for any amount of money. I don’t think I could put my heart into creating something for such a selfish prick. I think his best bet is to go to Walmart and buy something that was made in a sweatshop. That’s the quality of person he seems to be… and probably the quality he deserves.
