I’m reposting this article from my old blog. It originally appeared on August 10, 2018. I’ve decided to share it again as/is because it makes me laugh. I think we need a laugh, and I don’t feel like writing about the usual stuff today. I might do that anyway, because something is bound to irritate me… but here’s an alternative post for those who are sick of the usual 2020-21 topics. This was truly a WTF moment for me.
I had a “rude awakening” this morning. You know that expression, “rude awakening”? People often say it when someone is about to face reality in an unpleasant and unexpected way. Well, that’s not the type of rude awakening I had. I literally had a “rude awakening”… as in, someone rudely accused me of being rude and offensive!
Last night, just before I went to sleep, a Facebook friend who does stand up comedy posted this.
I don’t usually play along with these things, but decided to this time… perhaps it was my mistake.
So here was my response, which several people “liked”.
I didn’t think this was offensive. Given our president’s penchant for affairs and grabbing women by the pussy, I thought it was spot on.
Imagine my surprise this morning when someone called me out for being “rude and offensive”. Have a look.
Well, it’s not the first time someone has called me rude and offensive, but I was truly puzzled by this…
I gave some thought to going off on this guy, especially since it was about 5:00am and I hadn’t yet had my coffee. Fortunately for him, I was sitting on the toilet, which gave me a few minutes to compose my thoughts. Below was my response.
This was actually much nicer than the first response that came to mind.
Then, the guy came back with a response I never in my wildest dreams would have come up with, even on my most random thinking day. Behold…
Thanks for mansplaining this for me. I clearly never would have made the connection.
Honestly, I was baffled by this response. Yes, I am old enough to know who Ryan White was. He was my age and, when he died at 18 years old, was already 100 times the man Donald Trump is. Moreover, while he did have a infection that can be transmitted sexually, White did not himself contract AIDS sexually. He was a hemophiliac who received weekly blood transfusions to treat his condition. Unfortunately, he received blood that was tainted with the virus that causes AIDS, and that’s why he got sick.
Ryan White made headlines because he wanted to keep attending school. People in his community were ignorant about how AIDS is spread and fought to keep him out. White very bravely kept fighting and educating, and he eventually died a hero among my peers. I have tremendous respect for Ryan White. I have zero respect for Donald Trump. They are completely different people. In fact, Trump probably would have been squarely on the side of the people who wanted White banished from school. To bring Ryan White into a discussion about Donald Trump is, in my mind, the height of bad taste and offensiveness.
I never in a million years would have ever thought of Ryan White as being the reason I shouldn’t crack jokes about STIs. Even if Ryan White had contracted AIDS sexually, I just plain wouldn’t have made the connection. To be honest, I was initially very offended that this random stranger would make this kind of comment to me, a person he doesn’t know from Adam. But, once again, I fought the urge to write a nasty response. Instead, I posted this.
And he posted this…
Dude, I could have “thought” all day and never come up with the Ryan White/Donald Trump connection… That’s just a little “out there”, in my opinion. But thank you for the suggestion and the chastising.
I think it’s funny that as this conversation was occurring, I was actively thinking about what I was going to post. I really wanted to tell him off in an epically snarky way, but held off on doing that because I got the feeling he’s not your usual Internet troll.
And then I decided to add a suggestion of my own.
Wise counsel? I hope some people have learned from Trump’s White House fiasco.
I must admit that I was curious about this man. I wanted to know what made him call me out for insinuating that Donald Trump should have a sexually transmitted infection named after him. I went to his Facebook page and found it wide open, with a hodgepodge of odd public videos, YouTube videos of himself, and posts lamenting about cyberbullies and how miserable his life is.
It appears that some people have had a go at this dude, sending him mean-spirited private messages. And even though I did not engage him first, I guess he equated me with the Internet meanies for making a joke about Trump and STIs. Obviously, I didn’t do enough thinking about how Ryan White and Donald Trump have things in common.
Of course, I have no way of knowing what will offend people, especially those I don’t know. He took offense at my generic comment about our current White House occupant, but failed to realize that his very personal comment accusing me of being rude and offensive was much worse. After all, we don’t even know each other.
I am glad I didn’t give in to my initial impulse to blast him. Even though I think his comment about Ryan White is completely ridiculous, it appears that he’s troubled. I don’t know what his issues are, and I wish we hadn’t crossed paths, but I don’t want to cause him pain. I am a bit surprised that he wasn’t upset about another suggestion that appeared in response to that meme…
I mean, this seems more offensive to me than suggesting an STI named after Trump… but, like I always say, you never know what will shake the nuts from the trees.
This is what inspired the comment about monuments to fucking daughters…
Edited to add: The above comment was posted by a different person who was responding to the original meme, not to me. No one is in any danger or being threatened– the “daughter” referred to in the comment is Ivanka Trump and the comment refers to Donald Trump’s statements about how he’d want to date her. The person who posted that is referring to a hypothetical monument named after Donald Trump. It’s just tasteless political humor. I’m sorry I wasn’t clearer about that.
Anyway… I think he will go on my block list so I don’t offend him again. Who’s got the time for that shit?